While I was pregnant with our second child my husband got a new dream job. He’s in the IT field and he found *the* company who appreciates his expertise and utilizes his talents – truly a love/love relationship.
The only drawback (more for me then him maybe) is the travel. We knew there would be travel involved, but maybe just not how much. It slowly turned into every other week, at least. Sometimes more.
And back when I had a newborn, that travel unbelievably hard. Without family in TX I felt alone and overwhelmed being by myself with a toddler and an infant. I started having crazy thoughts about what would happen if I fell down the stairs and got seriously hurt or what would happen if we got in a car accident without Tony in town. The mind does some crazy things when sleep deprived and without adult interaction.
Thankfully I was able to have my parents visit often. And we took several trips to visit family that we scheduled around especially long work trips. And as the baby slowly grows into this wild toddler stage (tear), we’ve started to find our routine. I am more confident and comfortable with two, the kids are finally on a good schedule, and I am getting longer stretches of sleep.
Recently, during a work trip I noticed that things just are not as hard as they used to be. In fact, the last time I kissed my hubby goodbye for 7 straight days I realized that I was even looking forward to a few things. (Don’t get me wrong, if given the choice I’d never let him leave. But it never hurts to find the positive in the hand you’re dealt.)
1. I don’t have to make dinner for 4! As a SAHM the dinner pressure is real… and it’s one of my least favorites. I’ve never been great in the kitchen. Meal planning is my kryptonite, I am seriously terrible at it. But with the hubby gone I can serve PB&J’s 3 nights in a row and suddenly — I’m a HERO! 3 slices of ham, a stick of cheese and some crackers – BAM dinner of champions! Not that my husband doesn’t help make dinner or expects me to serve him ever. It’s 100% a made-up pressure I’ve put on myself. But with him gone for a week, I sigh a big sigh of dinner planning relief.
2. I get the TV aaaalllll to myself. “Ha ha ha” you say, “ya right.” Well good point… but, after the kids are in bed I do! And I get to watch all the Friends reruns and Mindy Projects I can watch. Not that I don’t love watching jiu jitsu tournaments and college wrestling. But I do not love watching jiu jitsu tournaments and college wrestling. And now, I do not have to justify why I’m watching Ross and Rachel breakup for the 100th time. It’s a guilty pleasure, okay. Don’t judge me.
3. My kids get 100% of my attention. Balancing being a wife and a mother is a juggling act. I know I’m supposed to put my husband first but let’s be honest – someone always has to come last. Either the kids, my husband or me. So I take advantage of my husband being gone and spend extra time on bath and books. I’m not distracted or rushing them to bed so I can spend time with my husband. And, in turn, when my husband comes back into town, I do rush bath or skip books to get the kids to bed so Tony and I can binge watch a Netflix show together. And I do it with a little less guilt, knowing next week I’ll have plenty of time to catch up on all those Thomas books.
4. My family visits more often! Because my parents feel so bad for me being all by myself here with the kids, they visit and stay for weeks when they do. I have my sister coming up next weekend to help with some projects I’m trying to get done around the house. Thank goodness for family.
5. (This perk is the big one for me) When my husband is home, he gets to work from home! I think this one seals the deal really. It’s super hard to manage 2 kids when he’s gone. But it’s so convenient to have him home all day when he’s here. When he takes a coffee break, he comes out and plays for a few minutes. He can watch the kids when the baby is napping so I can run to the store — gloriously kid free! Lunches at home with all of us are the absolute best! And having him home the second he clocks out of work is awesome. This one almost makes up for all the travel. Almost.
I know once he reads this post he is going to sigh a big old huge sigh of relief. He hates leaving us for work, but he also loves what he does (and he has to work). Knowing that I’m finding my groove and that things are getting easier will only make his life easier. So I will continue to look for the positives.
Does your husband travel for work? Do you hate it? Or not mind so much? I would love to hear about it, here or on our Facebook page!