When I became a mom, I was shocked by how intense the whole mommy world was. I didn’t realize there was a “Mommy War” going on. I guess I should not have been surprised…combine social media and the topic of parenting and it can bring out the worst in some people. However, I believe that most women want to be encouraging and supportive rather than negative.
Here are five ways to avoid “The Mommy Wars” ::
Avoid Crazy Message Boards
When my first child was born, I joined an on-line message board for new moms. I loved the thought of being able to connect with other women in the same stage of parenting. Let me tell you, it was drama drama drama. A place to ask questions turned into an all out mommy civil war. Sadly, some individuals find it easy to be rude, hateful, or judgmental sitting behind the safety of a computer screen. I learned quickly that not all message boards are created equal. Some can provide a wealth of knowledge while others discouragement. Be picky about where you connect on-line. (We hope you find the Dallas Moms Blog Discussion Boards to be Mommy War FREE!)
Give Opinions Only When Asked
Let’s be honest, moms are opinionated. We all have our own passionate beliefs about parenting. While I am all about sharing advice (like through this blog), sometimes it’s better to keep it to yourself. I remember getting tons of advice when my son was born. While I knew most people were well-meaning, it felt overwhelming and judgmental at times. I try to make it my rule to give advice only when asked.
Get to Know Different Moms
Confession: I am a recovering type A mom. For example, in my son’s first two years of life, he probably missed his nap a total of five times. Time and experience helped me relax but more importantly spending time with other moms was the key factor. Seeing women I respected parent differently encouraged me to calm down and stress less. Parenting is based on so much more than a linear philosophy and we can all learn from those who are different.