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Three Ways the New Breed of HomeSchooling Moms Will Surprise You! (Hint: She Doesn’t Own a Denim Jumper!)

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I didn’t own one…or know where to buy one… Thank goodness the old stereotypes of homeschooling moms have been replaced!

Denim jumpers. Fourteen children crammed in a fifteen-passenger van. Colorful letters-of-the-alphabet signs doubling as home decor…  This is what I thought the homeschooling mother was all about.

That is until I became one. 

I had read other blog posts about how great homeschooling was…  But, I still thought those women were a little unconventional if not a tad “off.”  (No offense, Kelly.)

Now, I’m quite convinced that, as a homeschooling mom, I am part of an elite club–a new breed of so-called un-schooling mothers– that may be able to take over the world.

Not that we intend to…at least I don’t… at least not this week… I have laundry to do…

Joking aside, it struck me today when I listened to a local radio DJ throw out his morning trivia question to a listener who– on the spot– won a nice cash prize simply by knowing the answer.  In an era where many Americans struggle to remember the name of the Vice President and would be hard pressed to dissect a sentence, this woman confidently answered a reasonably difficult American history question and then made this statement:

“I’m a homeschool mom. I’d better know that one.”

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I was scared…but…once I got over my fear…I realized how freeing homeschool could be for me and my children!

Here’s the truth:  I graduated from both college and graduate school with honors.  And yet, I don’t think I have ever learned more in my adult life than I have during my past six months of homeschooling.

It amazes me.  I was so frightened to take my children out of a traditional school setting.  I was worried that I would not be able to teach them.  I’m not a teacher by nature… (In fact, after just one hour of teaching the children’s class at church I usually need comfort foods and a three-hour nap. Truth.)

What if I failed? What if I brought them home and they wouldn’t listen to me…then they wouldn’t learn anything…then they’d never get into college… then they would still live under our roof when they were twenty-seven because they couldn’t get a job…What if????

Concern.  Panic.  Sheer terror.  These were just a few of the emotions I experienced as I considered the homeschooling option.

A good friend told me that I’d love it.  “You’ll learn a lot…” she said.  As if that was supposed to be encouraging. Learning?  Uh, I’d served my hard time on that front…Did I really want to learn more?  Would I enjoy it?

The answer was yes.

And, now that I’m in the club I realize how utterly and completely wrong my stereotype of the homeschool mom really was.  Want to know the truth about the new breed of homeschooling moms? They are pretty amazing, actually.

Here are three traits that completely surprised me:

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Homeschooling moms know that doing math on a sandy beach sure beats doing pages in a workbook!!

1.  Homeschool Moms are Smart:  Most of the women that I’ve met in my new homeschool circles are interesting, thoughtful, and great to talk to because they are grounded by solid convictions and well-read.  That doesn’t mean you have to be a brainiac to homeschool.  Rather, to emphasize that a lot of homeschool moms are extremely sharp because they are lifelong learners who are actively learning alongside of their children.

This is so opposite of the stereotypes that I had accepted.  Contrary to what the anti-homeschool propaganda had tried to make me believe, the homeschooling mom was anything but simple.  She’s a master of many subjects.  Her math skills may be unmatched… and her knowledge of history and geography and other subjects (that you memorized the information for to make it through the test and then forgot forever)… Well, she knows all that stuff, too!

In fact, I’m thinking about trying out for jeopardy…

But, here’s the other thing I’ve learned about homeschooling mommas…they don’t often feel brilliant.  They have worries, fears, and doubts about their children’s education just like every mom.  Which leads me to point number two…

2.  Homeschool Moms are Courageous:  Moms that decide to take on their children’s schooling have some kind of gutsInsane amounts of courage in many cases.  Don’t underestimate the strength it takes to break free from a conventional and universally accepted system and say…”Hey, I think I’m going to try this a different way.”  Just telling people that you’ve made the decision to homeschool often requires teflon-coated skin.

I don’t think I was born with that kind of courage.  But, when the time came for me to seriously consider the homeschooling option — I found it. 

My situation was bad.  My son was getting perfect grades, had excellent behavior at school, and was by all accounts one of his (very warm and caring) teacher’s favorites.  He was at a great elementary school just eight blocks from our house. 

Oh, wait…that doesn’t sound bad at all, does it? The truth is, it all looked good on the outside but he wasn’t happy. 

His teacher did express one concern: he was unmotivated to do anything extra beyond his normal work load.  I believed her because at home my once inquisitive child –who had transcribed every name from the 200 page Star Wars encyclopedia at age 4–only wanted to play video games.  He rejected any additional learning.  Though he was a great reader, he complained about it.  He was tired.  He had developed some nervous habits.  He started telling me his belly hurt every morning and every night before bed…

He had changed and I missed my happy, curious, easy-to-get along with son. 

But, I was so scared.   Homeschooling? There has to be another option…Could I do it? Would I hate it? Would they hate it?

Then I saw all the proof I needed.  A homeschooling mom I knew who was more likely to own a pair of Miss Me’s than a denim jumper invited us to a play date at the park.  It was a Tuesday morning and her elementary age boys would run, jump, and climb on the playground’s equipment then do this amazing thing.  They’d sit down and read for a few minutes before heading back out for another game.

They were happy. They seemed relaxed.  They were playing and acting like children.

I was amazed.  I wanted that for my children too…

Which leads me to point three…

3.  Homeschool Moms are Not Backwards: In fact, I’d say homeschool moms are some of the most forward thinkers I’ve ever met because they are thinking about their children’s future…all of the time

This is not to say that other moms aren’t always thinking about what lies ahead for their children–rather to say that the archaic stereotype of the socially-stunted homeschooling family just isn’t a reality. 

People are choosing to homeschool in order to have the freedom to allow their children to pursue their dreams (like the large number of Olympic athletes who are homeschooled).  I’d argue that it’s the progressive thinker who desires to give her children the liberty to work at their own pace instead of being limited to learning at the same pace as their peers. Homeschooled children can sometimes have even greater opportunities in the areas of athletics, the arts, and business simply because they are able to spend more time pursuing their passions.   If you haven’t watch the “Hack School” TedX Talk video yet…Check it out.

The chance to ride a bike in a princess dress in the middle of the day...this is what homeschooling means to us...

The chance to ride a bike in a princess dress in the middle of the day…this is what homeschooling means to us…

Plus, these homeschool moms are not confined to one-size-fits-all systems that say school must be done a certain way.  Instead, they are free to experiment with curriculum to match learning styles, and add programs and activities that meet their children’s special needs and fit their unique personalities.  There’s nothing backwards about taking on the responsibility of specially designing your children’s entire education around their gifts, skills and abilities.   The program we use called Classical Conversations is a completely different education style and philosophy…but it’s been fantastic for my children and the way they like to learn.

Homeschooling — it’s not what it used to be. I never really thought I’d be a homeschool mom.  But, now I wouldn’t change it for anything!  

 

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31 Responses to Three Ways the New Breed of HomeSchooling Moms Will Surprise You! (Hint: She Doesn’t Own a Denim Jumper!)

  1. Megan B. April 4, 2014 at 9:19 am #

    Way to lay it out there, girl! Love your humor and clear, concise ideas. You are a talented writer. I look forward to joining the CC community very soon and learning from you and so many other great homeschooling mommas around here. Blessings!

    • Heidi August 24, 2015 at 7:00 pm #

      I never reply to blog posts (now I can’t say that) but you exactly described my situation three years ago! Great school, great grades, great behavior! But, the love of learning, of reading, of being a kid turned completely off! My daughter would say, “My tummy is angry”. She was so anxious about school and such a perfectionist about it. She put on such a show (that everything was fine) at school and was so unhappy about it. The exact day that I got up enough courage to pull her out, she came back. She giggled again, and that’s when I knew this was right for us…for her.

  2. Vicky F. August 10, 2015 at 5:35 am #

    I get the same looks when my son proudly states my mom is my teacher, my school is at home. I never planned to home school. I have two college degrees, I worked in the EMS field and now in the nursing field. I was raised in public school along with all my friends and rest of my family. Never really heard of home school other than on TV but when my happy go lucky son started to spiral into panic attacks and being sick everyday before school, I knew that I have to help him. Considering my job choices over the years, fear was not a big factor, nor the thought of teaching, because I have taught my own peers. I discovered that teaching my child was quite a bit daunting, I want him to know but not to point that I cause the panic attacks that we escaped from. Love your way of thinking, I had to a friend (not of the homeschooling variety)read your article and she said she could image me writing this, we are kindred souls. I luckily have had lots of encouragement, family and friend cheerleaders and only one of two poor souls that questioned me. Bless those in my life that instead of standing on the sidelines when people questioned my choices, they circle the wagons and tell the naysayers, unless you are in her shoes, don’t judge. Blessing and Good Luck, on your continued adventure!

  3. Judy D August 11, 2015 at 12:43 am #

    I’m glad you are finding the benefit in joining us homeschoolers, but disappointed to see you insult the older generations or those that look different from your own family. There is as much diversity among homeschoolers as there is among public schoolers and that’s a good thing. I don’t personally wear denim jumpers but know hs moms who do and also have many kids, and they are incredibly intelligent and wonderful parents. Let’s not forget that those families who are “what it used to be” are the ones that gave us the statistics of the average homeschooler falling in the 87th percentile academically. And their pioneering the right to homeschool is why you are lucky enough to have that option today. I agree with your sentiment but you could have expressed it without acting superior to others.

    • Trish August 11, 2015 at 4:01 pm #

      I wholeheartedly agree that this article is offensive to those who laid the groundwork for homeschooling in the U.S. and who probably wrote much of the curricula all you new homeschoolers are using today.

    • Debbie August 12, 2015 at 12:01 pm #

      I am thrilled that homeschooling has reached a place where people can just yank their kids out of school and have a plethora of curriculum and resources at their fingertips. But, do not insult those of us who came before you who had zero information or help. We fought, scraped and invented our own.

      You can’t even imagine what it felt like the first day I looked at my wide-eyed third grader across the dinner table and realized, in a panic, I had no idea what to do next. Internet searches pulled up little to no information, there was no School Box, no Amazon, no ebay. I remember frantically combing through Walmart’s book section looking for any workbook that might help me get started.

      My generation and the generation that came before me are the ones that made it so easy for you who follow in our paths today. You are only the latest convert to an elite group of strong, intelligent women who cared more about their children than themselves and were willing to sacrifice everything to prove it.

      • Jenny August 14, 2015 at 12:50 pm #

        There was NO internet when I started. At a curriculum sale what you would find most was being printed on a mimeograph in someone’s garage and they would send you correction pages as editing was needed.

        Homeschooling back then was begun with real fear and trepidation… actual heart pounding, knees wobbling fear. Because other people were willing to TAKE YOUR KIDS AWAY just because they didn’t understand your commitment.

        I DO understand the sentiment of this article and that it was not meant to be hurtful. However, these later generations of homeschoolers are rapidly forgetting how they are blessed by the blood, sweat and tears of homeschool pioneers and those early brave families.

        • Susan August 15, 2015 at 8:58 am #

          Jenny, I have to agree with you, this could be construed as perpetuating the stereotype that more experienced homeschool moms are backwards and uneducated compared to their younger, more enlightened counterparts. I also started homeschooling before there was Internet and we needed to understand the material well enough to write our own curriculum. Back then the bias against homeschooling was even greater and you did not jump into it on a whim as some seem to do today. I am glad the author found homeschooling and is sharing about it on this blog, but the tone is a little bit condescending toward the pioneers who often risked jail time as they fought for the right for all of us to raise our own children.

        • Erin Shreve August 15, 2015 at 2:06 pm #

          So true! There WERE people who were willing to take your kids away. We were careful for many years who we told we were home schooling. And, there was very little to work with. The ones who paved the way for home schoolers today should be thanked, not mocked. We were not stupid, frumps who made our kids sit at school desks and fill in work sheets all day!!! We also wanted the best for our children and fought to make it happen.

  4. sher August 11, 2015 at 9:24 am #

    Excellent article! Welcome to this homeschool world!! -though sorry you had to come in through bad experience and needing to reject the school.
    My only issue is the teasing of/comparison to the denim jumper homeschool mom’s before us. That not only paved the way for us, but cleared the forests and plowed it all down for us!
    1) Those gals were smart before anyone had a clue! They saw and understood the direction of the educational system early on.
    2) Talk about courage! They had to fight for the right to home educate, sometimes hiding it because of being illegal. Then to teach without internet, without massive amounts of available curriculum, and under constant social scrutiny. I don’t think I’d be nearly as successful without the computers in my home!
    3)Backwards?! They led the charge that started this whole movement that may be able to reform the system itself! As far as socially awkward goes, they were completely ostracized and isolated not necessarily by their own choice but by the rejection of everyone else who couldn’t understand the homeschool intent. I have to give them mad props for making it possible for me.
    The denim jumpers? Well, I agree just ick. But I clearly remember several of my elementary school teachers wearing those same jumpers.

    Anyway, that’s a stupid long comment! Sorry! I did enjoy your encouragement to homeschool moms. Thanks!!

  5. Alana August 11, 2015 at 10:54 pm #

    Thanks for this. I have a super smart Toddler and everyone that’s heard me say I’d like to homeschool him has looked at me as if I’m crazy ! People have tried to convince me that I don’t want to do that.. I enjoyed reading your article..

  6. Tami August 12, 2015 at 4:05 am #

    I echo the above comments.,I began homeschooling in 1992, when my daughter was just 3. I was the outside, the renegade, in those days we called it Free Learning. We didn’t fit in with The Catholics, the Babtists or the hippies. We just knew we had to push through and create a path for you. Changing laws, quelling fears, being the oldest child, the tester. It wasn’t easy but it was worth every second. As a family we are strong, committed and deeply in love with each other, life and learning. You haven’t recreated the wheel, youre just enjoying the nicely paved roads. Your welcome.

  7. Myssi August 12, 2015 at 12:18 pm #

    I totally agree with your sentiments and enjoyed reading your article. I also get that you weren’t trying to bash the “older generation” of home schoolers, but I wish you could see the ACTUAL courage those women had! My jean jumper wearing mother (she even had the white tennis shoes to go with it) started homeschooling in 1985. I can remember being in Kindergarten and the few times we actually ventured outside of the house during school hours were pretty scary. First, people would ask why we weren’t in school, and when my Mom would tell them she home schooled the first thing they’d say was “is that legal?” Then they would get in my sister’s and my face and start drilling us on math facts and trying to make us read things to them. No one home schooled. Few had even heard about it. Not to mention they pretty much had to piece curriculum together out of thin air. No catalogs filled with curriculum choices and journals and starter kits and supplements arrived at their door. There weren’t conferences to encourage them in their endeavor, or really even support groups so they didn’t feel alone. They were alone and they did it anyway. They didn’t have access to the internet to help come up with lesson plans or supplements or handwriting pages. These women deserve to be honored and appreciated for everything they did to make homeschooling what it is today. I started home schooling my first child 5 years ago and the freedom, acceptance, and just wealth of information that this generation of home schooling mothers experience is, I feel, unappreciated because they don’t know any differently. The women before us were the courageous ones, jean jumpers and all. 🙂

    • Theresa August 15, 2015 at 1:40 pm #

      Right on, Myssi! My parents started teaching my sister and me at home in 1983. Yes, we were totals frumps by today’s standards of beautiful. And my mama was still smart, brave and cutting edge, willing to give of herself freely to grow us up right. That is what what ANY day’s standard of beauty should be. This is a great article to highlight some of the misconceptions about homeschooling, but yeah, if you want to disparage my mama’s jean skirt and sneakers I’m going to have to set you straight!

      Homeschool graduate, now with 19 years of homeschooling mama experience included 🙂

      • Rachel April 18, 2016 at 1:58 pm #

        Myssi and Theresa, I am right there with you. When my mom started homeschooling me, she had a few denim jumpers and even fewer homeschooling curriculum resources. I respect her far more than I can express because of the courage she had to pull my brother and I out of school back in the early 90’s to homeschool us. I never would have made it this far in life if it hadn’t been for her strength.

  8. Lisa Crews August 14, 2015 at 6:03 pm #

    Words have meaning;choose them carefully. Ideas have consequences.

    What does the author think the “old” breed of homeschoolers was like? She’s not really very clear about that. She suggests in the first paragraph it’s the denim jumper wearing mom of many, but then she admits that was a distorted view. Too bad she never at any point corrected that view-that was always a small subset of homeschoolers. Since she didn’t specify what she thought the “old” breed was (this article is supposed to contrast between two things after all.) She’s setting herself up for a lot of criticism and is making it easy for people think that’s exactly who she thinks the “old” breed is.

    1. Does she think unschoolers are the “new” breed and homeschoolers who mimic school at home are the “old” breed? Unschooling has been around for at least 3 decades now and has, depending on the criteria of classification, at least 3 distinct groups: adult directed, student interest led and free range.

    2.Does she mean the “old” breed were denim jumper wearing mothers of many? That’s only been a subset of homeschoolers all along and when those denim jumpers were popular, they were popular among all pregnant women, not just homeschoolers.

    3. She mentions Classical Conversations. There isn’t anything at all unschooly about it. There’s plenty of debate in the Classical Education Homeschooling community as to whether or not it’s even Classical or conversational.

    4. Does she mean the “old” breed didn’t have the 3 characteristics she lists: smart, brave and forward thinking? Surely not. No one is so foolish to say write that kind of thing and leave their name and photo. If she does think the “old” breed had those traits, then it was a very bad idea to use the qualifier “new” in her title: Three Ways the NEW Breed of Homeschoolers Will Surprise You. You only use qualifiers to distinguish between groups or subsets. If she has simply left out “the new breed of homeschoolers” she wouldn’t have made implications I’m sure she didn’t mean.

    Is the author unaware of the courage of the “old” breed? Is she aware there was an underground railroad type of network of some homeschoolers is the early years? Some homeschoolers had alarm words and escape routes their kids had practiced in case truant officers, social workers and police officers showed up at their homes in states where homeschooling was illegal or in legal limbo. Those children went to another homeschooler’s home and then were transported across state lines to slow down any legal proceedings by confusing jurisdiction.

    That “old” breed homeschooled anyway. They had little to no curriculum, support groups, information or co-ops to choose from. They did it anyway. Colleges had never accepted homeschoolers before. They homeschooled anyway. Employers had never heard of homeschooling. They kept going. No internet. No Amazon.com.

    There were homeschooling parents who had seen the inside of jail cells, courtrooms and legislative proceedings fighting to make homeschooling legal for the author. Some of them knew no one else in real life who homeschooled. Some of them heard every family member, their pastors, their friends and psychologists talking about the severe damage it would do their children. I heard them speak at homeschool conventions when I started homeschooling in 2000. Imagine how dramatic language today about having the “courage” to pull a child out of an institutional setting, mixing and matching curriculum and talk of “Teflon” sounds to me in comparison. I’m not even going to address “Taking over the world.” because I can’t be nice about it.

    Homeschooling is so much is easier in every single way today. Never brag about your courage when you have it as easy as anyone ever has because there are people listening who had it much harder than you did.

    • Julianne September 20, 2015 at 12:47 am #

      As a new homeschooling mom, I can’t imagine how much courage a family had to have to homeschooling with the threat of losing your children constantly looming over you. I live in a state that has some of the strictest laws for homeschooling families. I worry that if I my boys don’t score high enough on the state tests we will be forced to send them to public school.

  9. Elizabeth August 14, 2015 at 9:25 pm #

    Love this post! Thanks so much for sharing~ Excited to share it with my followers!

    Elizabeth
    allkindsofthingsblog.com

  10. Elizabeth August 14, 2015 at 10:25 pm #

    I was homeschooled by a jumper wearer but let’s face it lots of mom’s in the late 80s were. I was the only kid I knew who was homeschooled and people actually thought I was slow & backwards. I homeschool my kids now and see how much more they can be involved in. I get where your coming from main stream media shows reality TV families with excessive amounts of children who homeschool and wear jumpers. That’s what people automatically think when they hear you homeschool. I’m blessed to live in a community where there are a lot of homeschooling families. When people ask what grade my son is in or is he ready to go back to school I proudly say we homeschool. Most people just says oh thats nice and I know someone who homeschools. Thanks for encouraging other moms through your journey! Blessings

  11. Martha Artyomenko August 15, 2015 at 12:06 am #

    I appreciated the article! As a homeschool alumni, I often love to see the changes that have happened. Yes, there were some brave souls when it was starting. But the changes have been really great. I wish sometimes some of the “old timers” would stop seeing the changes as a put down, and instead realize that this is part of progress. No, we don’t agree with everything that everyone does.
    Yes, everyone wore denim jumpers in the ’90’s and it was in style. That was not just a homeschool thing, but they just hung onto it a bit too long. Yes, they were really comfortable! I am sure the ones that come after us will have something to make fun of about clothing choices as well.

    I have been homeschooling for 12 years now. I was homeschooled my entire life as well. I am so thankful for all the things that I have available now. Change can be a good thing!

  12. Molly August 15, 2015 at 12:24 am #

    i appreciate that you are trying to dispel the myth that homeschooled = socially awkward. The homeschool movement has exploded. People homeschool for 1000 reasons. With the growing popularity of homeschooling, there is also greater acceptance of the concept of homeschooling. Today, we also have the added benefit of a large and diverse homeschooling community. This community brings with it a vast array of options and activities that were not previously available to homeschool families. Please focus on what is out there now rather than spend a good potion of your post furthering a pervasively negative stereotype about those who homeschooled before you. Those folks made it legal for the rest of us and paved the way for all the options we have today. And as far as jumpers go, well, they were actually popular in the 80’s and 90’s. You could buy one at Macy’s or Nordstrom’s or just about any retailer. I hope we are better than to judge folks by what they wear at a given time period in their life.

  13. jean August 15, 2015 at 4:54 pm #

    I homeschooled for over 9 years starting in the late 90’s. I “invented” spelling word go fish for on the go fun along with lots of other games. Necessity is the mother of invention.

    My biggest obstacle was when others asked me about socializing. I would calmly ask them if their coworkers were all the same age and education level. I knew the answer would always be no. I would then explain that my children, 4 of them, knew how to be around people of all ages…etc. Most people had nothing else to say on the matter.
    I found the experience so rewarding and there was a closeness with us that so many families lack.
    Best decision i ever made!!!

  14. Candace August 15, 2015 at 11:49 pm #

    Well… I am a homeschool mom, and I fit the “new” mold you’ve described – graduated from college, multiple honors, etc. However, I was also homeschooled myself back in those “olden days”, and I can tell you right now most of those moms were the same stock of women as homeschool moms today. Beyond brave, forward thinkers, courageous women – imagine homeschooling when almost no one has even HEARD of it? That’s what my parents did. I’ll let you in on something: they wore denim jumpers because that is what was actually in style. Hard to believe, I know, but public school, private school, and homeschool moms all wore them. Denim jumpers were the mom uniform of the times. Kind of like the yoga pants of today – all moms wear them, not just homeschoolers. lol. One other note – unschooling is a branch of homeschooling – not all homeschoolers are unschoolers or even remotely close. Classical Conversations is practically the antithesis to unschooling.

  15. Vonnie August 16, 2015 at 3:20 pm #

    I had a denim jumper back in my semi-hippie-chick days long before I became a parent. That was back in the late ’80 when I know few homeschoolers, but the ones I did know I found intriguing. The more I learned about the “movement” (if that’s what it was then) the more impressed I became with these parents’ commitment to education. There was no internet back then and curriculum options were limited at best. I really appreciate the efforts of those trailblazers, some denim-clad, some not for making the process smooth for me when I became a homeschooling parent.
    And if you’re a denim-jumper wearing homeschooling mom, that’s your business. I won’t judge you for that if you don’t judge my tank top and shorts! (Though these flabby thighs should probably be hidden under a long jumper!) 🙂

  16. Frazzledmom August 17, 2015 at 6:44 am #

    Loved this article. I get that you were celebrating diversity in the homeschool community, not bashing anyone. I have homeschooled for 13 years and I’m proud to see the growth and change in our homeschooling community. The old timers should too. They also should recognize that without God’s protection and direction, they wouldn’t have succeeded. Keep up your good work and encouragement!

  17. Gina August 18, 2015 at 9:40 am #

    Reading this post brought back so many memories. I homeschooled both of my kids, they are now grown. I began down the road of all that you described…and even had a friend BUY ME a denim jumper for my birthday one year. But, as I began to see the stereotype that was in that “culture”, I didn’t like what I saw. I didn’t fit, as much as I tried. My husband said he didn’t like denim jumpers. And I didn’t like the fruit I saw in the children as they grew up. So, we pulled away, and did much on our own. We didn’t look like the the typical homeschool family back then. We just looked like…us!

    We are not meant to be cookie cutter people, as much as we can try to think that our way of doing things is the “right” way. Sadly, I was often cut off by women who thought that way. If homeschooling has changed as much as you say it has, that is wonderful! Keep praying for how God wants you as a family to be. The women in my generation were sincere and wanted good things for their families. The same goes for this generation. If someone were to ask me for my advice, the first thing I would say would be to seek God first before you buy in to any way of thinking. He is the only One we are to measure ourselves by.

    God bless!

  18. Gina August 18, 2015 at 10:07 am #

    I do want to also add a caution for you: Every generation thinks their way is better than the generation before them, but we need to remember that there is “nothing new under the sun.” The generation before me paved the way so that I could homeschool my kids with minimal resistance. My generation paved the way so that you can homeschool with freedom today. It’s important to see all the good in the past generations as well as what we perceive to be negative. We all do what we think is best with the knowledge we have. Do what you feel called to do in humility. Even though I didnt fit much of what I saw back then, I did glean much wisdom from women who were a part of that movement. I am grateful for all of them in some way.

  19. Laura from FermentaCap August 24, 2015 at 5:29 pm #

    Homeschooling never WAS what “Homeschooling used to be”. Even if you did have enough kids to need a 15 passenger van (Wow that van was great!). The only people who thought it was that, are people who never got close enough to really see it.

    The wisest thing my sister (who homeschooled with her seven kids some 3-4 years before I did with my seven kids), ever said to me is this:

    There is no point bringing the kids home from school if you are going to bring the entire school with them.

    This bit of wisdom gave me the courage to throw away many of the expectations of having to recreate a classroom in my home, and just find ways to teach my kids instead.

  20. Suzy August 24, 2015 at 9:38 pm #

    I’m beginning my 20th year of homeschooling. I’ve unschooled them all and have graduated five so far with three left to go. Two of them are college graduates and the other three are currenting attending a university. I have to say I’ve been a crunchy, unconventional homeschool mom since you were probably still toddling around. Don’t discount the wisdom of those who have gone before you. As my adult children can attest, they had an awesome, carefree childhood, regardless if their mom owned a denim jumper or not.

  21. Joan Frances August 27, 2015 at 9:00 am #

    THANK YOU! My confidence was waning this year (4th grade). This post boosted me!

  22. Cherry April 17, 2016 at 2:25 pm #

    This article is insulting…in many ways. I began homeschooling in 1984 and graduated my last student in 2015. Homeschooling moms were ALWAYS smart, courageous and forward thinking! Do you uniformly condemn religiously motivated dressing (Amish, Muslim. Catholic, Hindu) or do you limit yourself to bigotry towards Christian homeschool moms who wanted to be both feminine and modest? Please do the homeschooling community a favor and concentrate on your kids and quit trying to pass yourself off as an authority on subjects you know little of, such as homeschooling. No doubt you will get a double dosage of judgment when your kids look back at how you dress today.

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