My Daughter is Psychic and Knew I was Pregnant Before I Did

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My daughter knew I was pregnant before I did.

We were lying in bed together after a nap and she leaned over, kissed my belly and said, “Hi Baby! I love you!” and went on with her day.  Because I had assumed I was an “average” woman that followed typical timelines, I had no reason to believe that I could be expecting her sibling but from that day on I took a pregnancy test daily.

Seven days later that second pink line changed my family’s life.

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I openly admit that I wasn’t sure I ever wanted a second and my husband was happy to support whatever decision I made.  I love our life as a family of three and the advantages that come along with it.  The only thing that deeply nagged at me was not just the fact that my daughter would be an only child, but that she wouldn’t have a sibling to share life with.  I know it isn’t a promise that they will grow up happily together and love each other as there are many, many strained sibling relationships, but I think that is a small percentage comparably.  I just adore my brother and couldn’t imagine my life without him.

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Not only do I love my brother more than words can express, I actually like him-which took until he hit maturity and was in college.  I am so incredibly excited that I have the opportunity to help develop and nourish a sibling relationship with my second, due to arrive in June.  Because there is no turning back, as soon as I knew my daughter was going to be a big sister I started to think of all the special things that she will be able to experience that she would have never had the chance had she been an only child.

  • Equally despising your sibling and just as fiercely protective.  Even to this day when my husband complains about how annoying my little brother is (he still has a *bit* of growing to do), I feel this innate need to defend him-even if I agree 100%.
  • Instead of having to crawl in Mom & Dad’s bed they can sleep together (or is this just a dream of mine as a parent?)-I would crawl into my brothers bed when I was scared or vice versa.  Win-win for everyone because I didn’t have to admit it was because I was scared, my brother was able to cuddle, and my parents still had a kid-free bed.  Not to mention tons of cute pictures of us cuddling together.
  • Always having a playmate, even if it was just to torture the other.  I can remember being bored and just picking on my brother, poking him or staring at him just to annoy me, instant entertainment.

Now that we are adults, I have grown to adore our new level of friendship and things I never realized were part of the sibling deal.

  • Always having someone to call who will truly understand what it is like to have our mother.  Our mother is one of our favorite people on Earth but wow can she drive us nuts at times.  One call to my brother and I have instant gratification knowing that I was right and she was wrong.
  • Watching my brother grow in his romantic relationships and helping shape him into a quality partner.  I have had a few of his girlfriends personally thank me for helping him realize how immature he was being because he will be the first to admit I gave him (solid) advice when dealing with a new relationship issue.
  • The best thing about having a brother though as an adult is seeing him with my daughter.  I never knew how much I would cherish his relationship as an Uncle and I am beyond thankful that he is such a tremendous part of her life.

I feel so lucky to have my brother and know that my daughter already is starting to appreciate her sibling.  I don’t expect it to be an easy transition (or even manageable at times) but I have no doubt that she will grow up to love whoever is growing inside me.  She loves to talk to the baby, wash my belly in the shower, feed me so that the baby gets food, and read my swollen abdomen stories at night.

I joke when I say my daughter is psychic, but with her knowing the baby was there days after conception, if this child comes out as a boy (her guess) and on June 18th (another of her guesses) I might just be convinced.

Did your sibling relationships effect your choice to have more children?

What sibling adventures do I have to look forward to?

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  1. Hi! Looooved this post. As my husband and I are “in talks” of having our second we go back and forth too. But thinking on it now, I really don’t know what I would do without my precious little sister. And I really would love our daughter to have someone like that in her life. There’s nothing like a sibling. Not even the closest friendship comes close. Thanks for sharing this sweet post! And congrats!

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